Self Esteem

em, lamanya ak tinggalkan blog nie...da bpe bulan dah..bersawang siap dah blog nie...hurm...bnde yg bermain dlm pemikiran ak skrg adalah....mcmane ye ak tingkatkn self esteem sy ni? or cmne nk tngaktkn tahap konfiden dlm diri? ak suke tgk org yg brani berucap di khalayak ramai..ak sku tgk org yg pndai attact audience ble berucap...ak teringin nk jadi cmtu...tp mcmne ye? ak rse self esteem diri ak ni myb lom tnggi...jom kite tgk cara2 nk tngkatkn self esteem diri...bnde ni skdr pkngsian n bdsrkn pembacaan ak di internet...:D

1. First, greet others with a smile and look them directly in the eye. A smile and direct eye contact convey confidence born of self-respect. In the same way, answer the phone pleasantly whether at work or at home, and when placing a call, give your name before asking to speak to the party you want to reach. Leading with your name underscores that a person with self-respect is making the call.
• Memula skali, kita mesti greet others dgn senyumann dan look directly ke dlm mata dorg..kenapa?? kerana eye contact boleh membuatkn kita confidence. selain daripada itu, kita kena mmeperkenalkn diri sebelum bercakap ketika membuat pnggilan telefon.bila kita selalu menyebut nama kita, kita akn lebih yakin dgn diri kita sndri..
2. Second, always show real appreciation for a gift or complement. Don't downplay or sidestep expressions of affection or honor from others. The ability to accept or receive is a universal mark of an individual with solid self-esteem.
3. Third, don't brag. It's almost a paradox that genuine modesty is actually part of the capacity to gracefully receive compliments. People who brag about their own exploits or demand special attention are simply trying to build themselves up in the eyes of others — and that's because they don't perceive themselves as already worthy of respect.
4. Fourth, don't make your problems the centerpiece of your conversation. Talk positively about your life and the progress you're trying to make. Be aware of any negative thinking, and take notice of how often you complain. When you hear yourself criticize someone — and this includes self-criticism — find a way to be helpful instead of critical
5. Fifth, respond to difficult times or depressing moments by increasing your level of productive activity. When your self-esteem is being challenged, don't sit around and fall victim to "paralysis by analysis." The late Malcolm Forbes said, "Vehicles in motion use their generators to charge their own batteries. Unless you happen to be a golf cart, you can't recharge your battery when you're parked in the garage!"
6. Sixth, choose to see mistakes and rejections as opportunities to learn. View a failure as the conclusion of one performance, not the end of your entire career. Own up to your shortcomings, but refuse to see yourself as a failure. A failure may be something you have done — and it may even be something you'll have to do again on the way to success — but a failure is definitely not something you are.

Copy from: http://www.changeforgood.com/articles/april2004b.htm